People Tell The True Stories They Need To Get Off Their Chest

"Several years ago, I could tell something was bothering my husband and asked him about it. After about a week, he sat me down and explained that he had a new female coworker whom he was smitten with. They had lots in common, and she was super attractive. I believe he referred to her as "a prettier, skinnier version" of me. Ouch. He told me all of this because, as he explained, he wanted to remain faithful, be a good husband, etc. He had no intention of doing anything with her, but wanted me to know that this was the internal struggle he had been dealing with. It was a lot to digest. Basically, the message was, if you were more attractive, I wouldn't have to experience this moral conflict. Having dealt with body issues and low self-esteem for a long time, it was pretty painful to hear. Fwiw, I've never been obese. Overweight and cellulite-y at times, sure. It comes and goes in waves depending on how active and food conscious I am, but anyway... I cannot recall whether it was that same night or within a few days that he told me he was going to hang out with this coworker he was crushing on. He invited me to come along. It was a daytime activity that matched an interest we all had in common. Perhaps we could become friends! But I was still so hurt by the recent revelation that I didn't go. I told him I'd prefer he didn't hang out with her, but he went anyway. His reasoning was that since he was open and honest with me and not planning to do anything with her, logically, I shouldn't have any issues with it. He could've chosen not to disclose any of it. Sometimes I think that would've been better. I know he hung out with her at least one more time shortly thereafter, even taking photos of their time together and posting them on social media. That also kind of stung, especially when a few friends were like, "Who's that woman your husband is posting photos of?" His rationale was that she was new to town, had never been to this attraction in our city yet, and it's a place he (and we) liked to go. So it all added up to him going with her. Since it was her first time at this great place, the outing had to be documented, and posting the photos on social media was an efficient way to share them with her. He's never apologized for any of this because, in his eyes, he didn't do anything wrong. He didn't have an affair and he was open about his feelings. To some extent, I agree with his perspective. Maybe I was/am just being an illogical, emotional, jealous woman. But it's been years (maybe six?) and it still eats at me sometimes. I think it was pretty selfish to put his desire to hang out with her above the additional hurt it caused me. Okay, I'm done now. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest."